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THE AGING OF THE CHILDREN: PREPARING FOR ADOLESCENCE

Raising children can be more rewarding task of adult life. Nothing gives us more joy and pride that a child happy, productive and loving. Every age and stage of child development has specific goals and tasks. For children in arms eat, sleep and explore their world. For adolescents to develop their own identity within the group of friends. Adolescents need many skills to successfully achieve its goal of greater independence. Some teens do not make this transition smoothly. The move towards more indepencencia in adolescents can cause sadness and stress to their parents. Some aspects of this transition are normal and even cause much tension should not be cause for alarm for parents.

Starting early is the best way to prepare for children's adolescence.
The following are ways parents can prepare and prepare children for a smooth transition and greater success in achieving the tasks of development into adolescence:

  • Provide a safe and loving home.
  • Create an atmosphere of honesty, trust and mutual respect.
  • Allow the adolescent age-appropriate independence.
  • Developing a relationship with the child that allows parents to trust when you have concerns or problems.
  • Teach the basic responsibility for their personal belongings and with their own.
  • Teach the basic responsibility to help in the house. Teach the importance of accepting limits.
These are complex processes that occur gradually and begin during childhood. The years of adolescence the child will be less stressful when parents and children worked together on these tasks through the previous child development.

Abiertamene The ability to speak about issues is one of the most important aspects of the relationship between parents and children. Developing this relationship requires persistence and understanding. The relationship develops gradually, to spend time with the child. Parents should seize the opportunity to spend time with children during meals, telling stories, reading, playing with them during trips, holidays and celebrations. Parents should try to spend some time with each child, especially if they are discussing difficult issues or sad. This relationship creates a foundation of trust that allows the child to discuss with parents the problems and conflicts that arise during adolescence.

A father-son relationship full of conflict and tension in pre-adolescence may be a sign of the need for professional help. The time and energy invested by parents for their children's children can prevent small problems from childhood to become serious problems of adolescence.


Techniques for Parenting


Before, when our parents were born, the techniques for raising children are learning the extended family. If parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles did not live in the same house, usually lived a few miles away. They were always available to impart their considerable wisdom to the younger generation on the topics of pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting. Now, we have become a society in transition. It is rare that even the extended family living in the same state!

Since the late twentieth and early twenty-first century, parents have had to learn creative ways to raise their children. Surf the Internet, read books, take classes, talk to our parents by telephone, and make friends with parents who already have experience. Then we filter these things through our own morality, sensibilities, and personalities, to make them work in our own families. Would not it be easier if each baby came with an owner's manual attached?

Techniques for Parenting - Discipline

Probably the most important breeding technique and discipline is controversial. We parents, we have a dispute regarding what kind of discipline to implement and when. Appropriate discipline for a child of two years may not be appropriate, or effective for a ten year old child or adolescent. The most important piece of the puzzle of discipline is to determine who is in control: Parents or child. This may sound simple, but in our times, the answer is not always clear.

The fear of hurting the feelings of the child or to crush their spirit coerces many parents to allow their children to have the baton. Children need clear boundaries, from clear and consistent discipline from parents. Whether the method is the distraction with other activities, a time-out, loss of privileges, giving extra chores or spanking, it is crucial that we take our role to train our children to become moral adults respectable.

Techniques for Parenting - Education

The ability to recognize what we teach our children is a parenting technique which can benefit us all. From the moment our children are born are learning from us. They learn that if they cry, we respond. If we pull your hair, say "ouch." If they throw their cup on the floor, we will collect. Over time, we also teach them to walk, talk, dress, to say the alphabet.

As parents, we also have the responsibility to teach our children values and morals. We can not depend entirely on the schools to carry out this important duty. At some point during early childhood, parents must decide how to handle the formal education of the child. Is educated at home or attend a public or private school?

A variety of factors come into play when we consider the education of our children:

  • Family financial situation,
  • Quality of public schools and private
  • Education level of parents,
  • Personalities of the parents and children,
  • Support for home education and resources
  • And many other things.
The success of the education of a child does not always depend on which school to attend, but how involved are parents in their education.

Techniques for Parenting - Finance

Effectively handle the financial problems is a breeding technique that will follow us into adulthood of our children. It begins with the exciting thought: "Let's have a baby! How the hell we going to pay this?" Many couples choose to delay having children until they have saved a comfortable amount of money.

Some families want to save enough to allow the mother to quit your job and stay home for a certain period of time. Others want to save enough for the mother to stay home indefinitely. Then there are those brave souls who make the leap and take things as they come.

But financial problems do not end there. If the mother stays at home, life insurance becomes more important to protect the family if the father dies. And do not forget to save for college! In 2004, the average tuition at public universities was about $ 20,000 for four years. The average tuition of private universities was four times that amount. This is more than $ 80,000, and these figures do not even include accommodation and meals!

Parents today face diapers, clothing, food, entertainment, education, childcare, countertops, and countless other expenses. Wise parents will think how they want their finances are in one, five, or ten years, and then write their goals. These goals can be as simple as putting $ 50 a month in a savings account for college, or to pay off the credit card.

The children bring us much happiness and many responsibilities. Taking the time to plan ahead can remove some of the stress and worries of raising them.